A moment that changed me: holding the newborn baby I never thought I’d have | David Akinsanya

As a gay man I doubted I’d become a father. With my son in my arms for the first time, I wept – for myself growing up in care and for the future with a family

I never thought I would become a father. I grew up in care and as far back as I can remember I had issues with my sexuality. By the time I was in my 20s I had accepted that I was gay, even though I’d had a couple of heterosexual flings. Over the years, through my work as a mentor and as a foster carer, I met a number of youngsters whom I took care of and some of whom called me Dad. But I’d always wanted to have my own child too.

I met the mother of my child through work. I was delivering health and well-being workshops, and she wanted to talk about the possibility of fostering. We became friends: unbeknown to me pretty early on she decided that I was the ideal candidate to father her child. P was a heterosexual, professional woman in her early 30s. She had always wanted to have a child with a gay man – and someone who really wanted to be a father.

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